Tuesday, July 10, 2007
Love
What is Love?
Is it a feeling of giving unconditionally, without expectations?
From Oxford dictionary:
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love
• noun 1 an intense feeling of deep affection. 2 a deep romantic or sexual attachment to someone. 3 a great interest and pleasure in something. 4 a person or thing that one loves. 5 (in tennis, squash, etc.) a score of zero. apparently from the phrase play for love (i.e. the love of the game, not for money).
• verb 1 feel love for. 2 like very much. 3 loving showing love or great care.
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So, love is an intense feeling of affection. If the definition is that simple, why is it difficult to find one's love, and worse, admit love for the other?
For me, its easy to love non-human. I'm in love with my Bike, my gear, my phone etc, coz I have just one each of these. As one of the famous quotes said, "too many choices bewilder and frustrate, that's why I have one pair of shoes, one watch...".
Its not about finding easy love, and its not about loving something / someone that does not demand. For example, I love my bike, coz i get unconditional love back, she stands by me when i really need, we can talk, i hear in case she's uncomfortable, and she understands when i can't keep my promise (example cleaning up etc). And over a period of time, like for my bike converted to love, where each other is giving only, without any expectations. I wonder why is it so difficult for me to love a person.
Thinking through the situation, i think, love is only when you know the person inside out, when the other person has nothing to hide, stands naked in front of you with no hidden agenda, no hidden thoughts, its like giving oneself up to the other, for the other, not for self. Like, loving the other person, for the other person, not for nothing else.
Wonder why its easy for us all to love our pets, and not the humans, when all humans want is the same thing, "Love".
Is it a feeling of giving unconditionally, without expectations?
From Oxford dictionary:
_______________
love
• noun 1 an intense feeling of deep affection. 2 a deep romantic or sexual attachment to someone. 3 a great interest and pleasure in something. 4 a person or thing that one loves. 5 (in tennis, squash, etc.) a score of zero. apparently from the phrase play for love (i.e. the love of the game, not for money).
• verb 1 feel love for. 2 like very much. 3 loving showing love or great care.
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So, love is an intense feeling of affection. If the definition is that simple, why is it difficult to find one's love, and worse, admit love for the other?
For me, its easy to love non-human. I'm in love with my Bike, my gear, my phone etc, coz I have just one each of these. As one of the famous quotes said, "too many choices bewilder and frustrate, that's why I have one pair of shoes, one watch...".
Its not about finding easy love, and its not about loving something / someone that does not demand. For example, I love my bike, coz i get unconditional love back, she stands by me when i really need, we can talk, i hear in case she's uncomfortable, and she understands when i can't keep my promise (example cleaning up etc). And over a period of time, like for my bike converted to love, where each other is giving only, without any expectations. I wonder why is it so difficult for me to love a person.
Thinking through the situation, i think, love is only when you know the person inside out, when the other person has nothing to hide, stands naked in front of you with no hidden agenda, no hidden thoughts, its like giving oneself up to the other, for the other, not for self. Like, loving the other person, for the other person, not for nothing else.
Wonder why its easy for us all to love our pets, and not the humans, when all humans want is the same thing, "Love".
